Four Words That Can Change Your Marriage

Notes: Four words that can change your Marriage

Ephesians 5

Philippians 2

SPEAKER:

Greg Laurie

Sunday, April 24, 2016 — 10:00 a.m.

A successful marriage takes effort. Storms will come in marriage, so it is important to make sure that our marriages are built on a firm foundation. In today's message, Pastor Greg shares the four words that can change a marriage for the better.

Why do smoke alarms always go off in the middle of the night to change the battery? Do we even listen to the alarms anymore?

There are many marriages that are riding on fumes today. We need to pay attention to alarms going off in our marriage.

We need to continually work on our marriages.

Marriage requires that we apply effort.

People can't believe that marriages can last for over forty years now.

The evening of the marriage is determined by the work done in the morning of it.

A strong marriage is the result of obedience to the Word of God.

Focus on the work you need to do in your marriage, not what your spouse needs to do.

God said to leave and cleave.

1. Leave all other relationships.

2. You are to cleave to your spouse.

You still have your old relationships, they just aren't as important as your marriage is.

Lay this foundation right, get it right. You may have to remodel but it is worth it!

There is a devil that wants to destroy your marriage.

God can restore your marriage.

There is hope for every hurting marriage.

H.O.P.E.

Hanging On with Patient Expectation

Victory is not won by evacuation.

Four words that will change your marriage:

Ephesians 5:25 NKJV

Husbands, love your wives...

Ephesians 5:25-33 NKJV

[25] Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, [26] that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, [27] that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. [28] So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. [29] For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. [30] For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. [31] "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." [32] This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. [33] Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Four times in eight verses we are simply told to love our wives.

How are we to love our wives? As Christ loved the church.

We can not do that on our own...we need the Holy Spirit.

It all starts with loving our wives.

Agape is the Greek word the Bible uses to describe love this way.

Romans 5:5 NLT

[5] And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.

Forget about that loving "feeling"... Get back to that loving reality!

1. Eros: love on a physical plane.

We get the word erotic from Eros.

That's how most of us became attracted to our spouse.

Proverbs 5:15 NLT

[15] Drink water from your own well- share your love only with your wife.

2. Phileo:

A love that comes as a result of what we do towards each other.

3. Agape:

We love each other regardless of anything else.

The worlds love is always act-oriented

God loves unloveable and unattractive people.

In marriage a need will always arise that needs unconditional love.

Agape is the divine solution for marriage populated by imperfect human beings.

Philippians 2:2-4 NLT

[2] Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose. [3] Don't be selfish; don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. [4] Don't look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.

We are to look out for the interest of others. This is the opposite of what culture has taught from the Greeks till today.

Humble yourself...put others before yourself.

A truly humble person wouldn't say that they are humble.

Jesus practiced meekness. Meekness is power under constraint.

Meekness for us is submitting our wills to God.

Do what God tells you to do.

The problem with marriages today is selfishness. The solution is selflessness.

1. Don't allow your marriage to be overcome by selfishness.

Philippians 2:2 NLT

[2] Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.

2. Put your mate above yourself in marriage.

Philippians 2:3 NLT

[3] Don't be selfish; don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.

We are the biggest problem in our marriage!

1 Corinthians 13:5 NLT

[5] or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.

Shouting matches and hitting is wrong and needs to stop.

God can give you control over your temper.

9 words to a successful marriage:

I am sorry, please forgive me. I love you.

Philippians 2:5-8 NLT

[5] You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. [6] Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. [7] Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form, [8] he humbled himself in obedience to God and died a criminal's death on a cross.

The ultimate example is God's love for us.

Jesus was God among us. He was never a man becoming God. He was God becoming man.